Disidentify from negative thoughts and feelings

"We are dominated by everything with which our self becomes identified.
We can dominate and control everything from which we disidentify ourselves."

 "In this principle lies the secret of our enslavement or of our liberty. Every time we 'Identify" ourselves with a weakness, a fault, a fear or any personal emotion or drive, we limit and paralyze ourselves. Every time we admit "I am discouraged" or "I am irritated," we become more and more dominated by depression or anger. We have accepted these limitations; we have ourselves put on our chains. If, instead, in the same situation we say, "A wave of discouragement is trying to submerge me" or "An impulse of anger is attempting to overpower me" the situation is very different. Then there are two forces confronting each other; on one side the vigilant self and on the other the discouragenment or the anger. And the vigilant self does not submit to that invasion;..."

                                                             Roberto Assagioli, in his book "Psychosynthesis

Sounds to me that Desmond is right again. Identify with love or spirit and you're free from all limitations. See http://desmond.zaadz.com